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Thousands of families go through divorce every year. While it is difficult for the parents to adjust to the change and get finances in order, it is a confusing time for the children. Children respond to divorce in different ways depending on age and personality. If you are preparing to go through a divorce, use these steps to help your child through this tough transition. 

Break the News

Before you tell your child that you are going to get a divorce, you and your ex-spouse should sit together to decide how to share the news. Try to leave anger and finger-pointing out of the conversation. Instead, think of an age-appropriate explanation of the divorce. For example, you can tell your young child that both you and your ex-spouse will be living in different houses, so there is less arguing. Reassure your child that the changes are not their fault and that they are still well-loved by both parents. 

Help Them Cope

It is very understandable for children to be upset after hearing that their parents are going through a divorce. They might express their stress through a change in appetite or their behavior with friends. Make sure you are available to them if they need to discuss their feelings or if they have questions about the divorce. 

One of the best ways to help your child cope is to stay as consistent as possible. Children find comfort in routine and familiarity. Make sure that your child gets to spend time with both you and your ex-spouse. Keep your child occupied with activities and extracurricular clubs to help them socialize with other children and keep their mind off the divorce. 

Help Them Adjust to Their New Life

As the divorce gets finalized, you will have to work with your ex-spouse to decide custody. Custody battles can get messy, but the most important thing to remember is that a custody agreement is for the health and happiness of your child, not to "defeat" your ex-spouse. When a visitation schedule is in place, make sure you stick to it. This will get your child into a routine and prevent any potential legal issues. 

Both parents should enforce rules and routines in their homes. Do not try to be the "Nice Parent" who is more relaxed when it comes to following rules. This will only cause resentment in the other parent who is trying to teach the child how to behave. Be sure to check in with your child often to see how they are adjusting to their new life after the divorce. 

In Conclusion

Change is hard for anyone, especially for a child going through a divorce in their family. One of the most important things to do is remain civil and consistent as you work through the details with your spouse. Always act in the best interest of your child to help them through this difficult process.

When you need a divorce attorney who is both experienced and confident in their ability to represent your case, turn to the Law Office of Patrick H. Cordero, Jr. Patrick and his team have what it takes to legally resolve disputes, find the facts of your case, and provide support throughout the entire process. If you ever have questions or concerns, do not hesitate to bring them to our attention. We’re here for you every step of the way. Get in touch with our firm for your initial case consultation. We serve Midland, Odessa, and the surrounding areas.